In the past six months I have been blessed with a loyal best friend and lover, a man who has given me his honest and truthful love, affection, attention, priority, support, has opened his heart, his arms, and his home. He wants to give me his entire life and be with me the rest of his life. This new relationship is by far different than my last or any other. We have far too much in common and not only emotionally, but mentally. We both have experienced pain and abuse.
How we express ourselves, the way we communicate, the support and how we always finish each other’s words and ways of thinking. And I know, that as different as this has been for me, it will be for my children as well. However time can only tell as they are yet not comfortable to be around him and although they do say they are okay with the relationship, something seems to bother them. I can only assume and say that it can be fact that I am now spending time with someone else, other than them and they have not adapted to the fact that mom is in a relationship and that it is far more serious, and not just dating.
I understand that he’s not their father, however, I was already separated from their father 1 year and two month before this relationship and they know very well that the relationship me and their father had, let’s just say, was not good. I understand it was a 23 year relationship, but it was 23 years with a narcissist. And I can understand that they too may find it hard to believe that life can be good and positive.
I believe I deserve this happiness and all I want is to include them. I want them to see that there is goodness and possibilities instead of being stuck in the negative world they only knew and know. It took me time to see and believe that good things can happen, but look where I stand now, content with my life.
I can only be patient giving them the time to accept us as one, giving him an opportunity to show them how and who he is, rather than hearing it from me.
So, I turn and ask you for a word of advice or share if you have had similar experience and how did it go for you.